God's Promised Marriage
I see it so often. I hear it so often. People in a marriage filled without God. People in a marriage without respect and value for each other. In today's society it's better to look like the person in charge then to admit you submit to each other. Everything is about who does what and who does more, better yet who makes more money. Then theres the lack of attention given and lack of friendship. Marriage has turned into such a negative thought into minds many do not believe in it anymore. Who can blame them with the amount of divorces going up. Marriage is bound to fail, marriage isn't possible, it does not stand a chance in today's society, at least not a ordinary marriage. If you truly want to make a marriage last and stand the challenges that will come your way you must have a Godly marriage. What is a Godly marriage? It's a marriage with God first, it's saying I do to God and then your spouse. It's a marriage filled with so much respect you do not disrespect each other in-front of others or alone in a room. It's standing together and taking each others opinions into real consideration. It's not rushing into a fight or one person always being right, it's not about who did the most that day and who's turn it is. My husband and I are prime examples of us being in a very unhealthy relationship only to have a Godly marriage now. That doesn't mean we fight any less or feel a constant butterfly love every moment of the day. It does mean we learned to let God fight for us and in that we feel the young love we first felt still be present everyday. We learned how to respect each other when we speak, we learned to understand each others point of views and consider the other person's side of the story. We came to the conclusion any failure one of us has the other played a part and when one of us succeeds we both do. Most of all and this is the hardest but we learned how to truly submit to each other. Now that doesn't mean to be each other's subservient but it does mean we HELP each other and do it without feeling less valued. A Godly marriage is thinking before reacting and not blaming just one person. A Godly marriage has no room for name calling, abuse, lack of respect, lack of a friendship, lack of affection or sex. It is filled with God, prayer, respect, understanding, infatuation, sex, friendship, kind words and growth. Learn to reach for God together and individually, to take the time to talk to each other and truly listen, to have alone moments for each other and family time. You must start at the basics and build a true friendship it builds a genuine enjoyment of each other. Without it you will drift apart. A marriage is what YOUmake it. The choice is yours an average marriage of today's society or a marriage of heaven, a Godly marriage.
"A woman loved by her husband will grow beautifully. A man respected by his wife will become more in love."
Marriage Prayer
-PRAY TOGETHER
Dear Lord we come to you today seeking your guidance. We come in brokenness and ready to do things your way. We know you are the foundation of marriage and everlasting happiness. We know some days will be filled with laughter and others with tears but we want to remain in love and respect. We no longer want to run from each other but build a friendship so strong we do not want to leave each other. May you fill our hearts with love, or minds of hopefulness, and our bodies with infatuation for each other. Amen.
Marriage prayer
-Pray Alone
Dear Lord I ask you to soften my spouse heart so that I may be able to speak to him/her and they may understand. I ask you to speak profound words and visions to him/her of our failing marriage. May you heal the hurt I have caused. Give me the patcience to speak with love and light and make my heart forgiving of him/her. Lord I want so badly the marriage you intended. Lead me to the spouse I am meant to be.
How to build a Godly marriage
Forgive each other
Pray Together
Pray indivually
Find a christain counselor
Attend church
Make God first
DO NOT PUT OTHERS BEFORE YOUR SPOUSE!
I truly believe this book is inspiring and helpful to any marriage. If you want daily words to grow your marriage read "Love language minute" by Gary chapman
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
(Ephesians 5:21)
A little worship never hurt
This song shows how anyone is capable of loving and forgiveness with God. We get used to putting our pride first and building walls to protect ourselves but if we want to be truly loved and love back we must let go and be vulnerable.